> it is really easy to un-share code by copying it into multiple places but it is very hard to unify duplicated code

Code that already exists has a gravity, a presumption of correctness. That presumption is very difficult to overcome, especially for programmers new to the codebase. An abstraction you think of as temporary will be, to those who come after you, simply the way things are done; breaking it apart and re-forming it is, for them, fraught with risk. It's good to keep this in mind as you make commits.