Fascinating myth that we all keep telling each other and ourselves that we fully own all our desires and behaviors. Western secular life continues to betray itself as a species of Christianity. European antiquity had no notion of this kind of counter-social autonomy (and no, that's not what Stoicism is about, much as people are mining it for the same gold they were trying to get out of Buddhism and Taosim in the 80s/90s). Then you read through Levi-Straussian anthropology and realize its probably the case most, if not all, cultures on Earth don't sport this peculiarity. So many moral/ethical concepts in the West, and American culture in particular as it seemingly double-downs on most sof it, are just straight up blind alleys.