Comment by Almaviva | Hacker News Reader

Comment by Almaviva | Hacker News Reader

For me, this advice is basically useless bullshit. Being a kid sucked. Freedom is more than worth all of the advantages. Adulthood isn't hard. Making money isn't that hard either. If you can't find a more valuable way to spend free time in your teenage years than flipping burgers for minimum wage, you aren't very resourceful.

You don't have to settle for shitty bosses. You are allowed to have as much free time as you want and afford, and if I want to spend some of it watching TV, then pretentious twits can kiss my ass.

What I did wish I knew was that the most precious part of youth is in fact the social, romantic, and sexual opportunities. If I would have known then what I know now: that all my appeal to women would somehow vanish in my thirties and that I'd experience nothing but romantic rejection for years, I would have planned my life extremely differently. Anyone who says you can take for granted that men have it easier in their thirties is full of shit.

The single most important thing I should have done in youth would have been to optimize my chances for sexual and romantic relationships with a chance to last a lifetime. Having this or not (not money) is the difference between years of relative bliss and years of feeling that life is basically fucking pointless.

Yes I'm angry.

Can you satisfy my curiosity and tell me more about your situation?

There's not that much to say. I'm a below average looking guy who used to be able to attract a woman and now, as far as I've been able to tell over the last few years, I'm universally rejected romantically and sexually.

I've been reading the guides out there for years and I don't do any of the classic mistakes that I'm aware of. My best guesses are that, in addition to a few physical flaws (nothing major) it's about changing expectations of women. I'm 35 and I look 22 and still act like a kid in some ways and am quite socially awkward. I don't think I have the verbal skills to pull off those moves where you put on a puppet show in order to push the right buttons and fuck women, and that's not what I want anyway. (I'd like nothing more in life than to meet a single woman who was attracted to me and with whom I could be myself with.) I have a personality where I don't take bullshit from anyone and if I'm asked a question I give the answer. Everyone I meet likes me and I hear lines like "You're smart and interesting but I don't know if the chemistry is there" consistently.

I've been doing things like internet dating, speed dating, a salsa classes, and I'm a pretty accomplished singer, and some guys actually have to try pretty hard not to attract women doing these things!

You are trying too hard.

That's not very helpful, Socrates.

Ok, your personality and self is such that just by acting naturally women are attracted to you. Congratulations, you get yours, Jack. It just isn't so with me. I have one personality with everyone, women, men, pets, kids, who-fucking-ever. I don't even raise my pulse much meeting women anymore because I'm so hardened to romantic rejection, and I know the pained looks they get when they realize they aren't attracted to me and can't quite figure out why.

you only posted on the internet so you could reject all theories other than "life is unfair to me"...go see a therapist because you obviously have personality issues...oh wait I can already hear the cued up excuse why you don't need to actually do anything to improve yourself, well just go fuck yourself then faggot

Whether or not I'm a gay hermaphrodite, I was responding to a post about advice to young people, and saying what I wish I knew as a young person was relevant.

In my case, this would have been to ignore pretentious fuckwads who say how difficult life is. It's easy. The hard part (for me, not necessarily you) is impressing women, and it's also the single largest thing affecting long term happiness. Perhaps there are some young people (not all) who would benefit from hearing this, because you don't hear it very much.

Have you thought about studying these skills?

http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2010/11/21/bill-clinton...

Hacking awkwardness away.

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