I know that lots of people have built careers on the JVM and defend it vigorously. Whenever I make a comment that is negative on the JVM, I always get downvoted without fail on HN. I used to be one of these people, after all, so I can relate.
If I truly cared about performance these days, I’d use C++ or Rust. Otherwise, I’d use a language like golang with reasonable default GC behavior and allocation patterns - where I know the daemon I write won’t use more than 100-200Mb, and probably even less, and will typically have sub-ms pauses. I think even most scripting languages, like Ruby/Python, have reasonable memory usage and GC patterns for web development, but I’m not as familiar with them.
I probably care more about energy consumption these days though. And again, the JVM is the worst offender. The average developer building a Java web app will create something which consumes gigabytes of memory usually. These apps tend to spend the majority of their CPU time allocating and GCing memory. I can only guess how much server time has been consumed to satiate the memory hungry needs of the JVM.