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> Why should society give a fuck though?

Why should it give a fuck if instead of hungry for love, they're just hungry. Or sick. Or anything other than fine, really.

> Most of these people don't become angry bitter sociopaths.

Citation needed. The amount of angry bitter sociopaths ranting about all kinds of things suggests that many are.

> What would you expect society to do for them?

The same society would do for any health issue, be it mental of physical. Help fix it, not belittle, mock and ostracize.

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How do you fix it though? I mean you can do thing like legalizing sex work and providing sex robots or something, but for most incels, it isn't about sex (if it were, there wouln't be incels in place where prositution is legal). It's about feeling desirable and desired, it's about social status. How exactly do you fix the feeling of not being desired? You can't force people to like you.

There are multiple issues that go together, I believe. There's the actual "I'm not being treated as a desirable human" (or maybe even "as a human"), there's the other part of what that does to them. There are lots of people that are treated terribly by society, who have objectively terrible lives. But many of them aren't suffering as much from it.

I believe that the issue lies in a) not feeling desired and b) the way to deal with that. There are people who share their fate but suffer far less. I'm sure it's not enough to drop some self-help blurp and "wow, why didn't I think of that", but I believe that therapy can help. I have no idea what kind of therapy is most effective though. But I'm sure even just handing out pamphlets will be much more effective than mocking and dehumanizing them and asking for their removal from society.

Three's also the fact house prices are generally set to be barely affordable by a high earning couple, which prices many single people out of the market and puts them at a huge economic disadvantage. Not sure how you'd fix that either.

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