Let's take this for a spin. Even if you cross post, then if someone tries to read it on medium first and encounters paywall, closes it, then finds your article on your blog and consciously or subconsciously this reader would already have a negative emotions about it and could easily loose patience before reading your whole post. Have you gained anything? no, you have potentially lost a long time reader.
I make sure to uncheck the option that may make my post exclusive in the future, and I also put canonical link[1]. The main goal is both SEO, and options for readers. If they prefer reading on Medium app or RSS or Dev.to than in my blog, so be it!
[1]: https://help.medium.com/hc/en-us/articles/360033930293-Set-a...