In most European countries the marriage of minors (with a lower age limit of 16, 15 or undefined) is legal (regulated and unusual, but not necessarily against the law).
https://www.visapourlimage.com/en/festival/exhibitions/ces-p...
I cannot reply directly but I'm fairly certain you do not have daughters if you say the experiences are equal in those marriages we are comparing.
Let's agree to disagree.