So it seems reasonable that if any interstellar civilization were out there, one would have found us by now, or their presence would be obvious to us. After all, Rome knew of China, even if they never directly interacted, and Spain eventually stumbled across the New World. Von Neumann probes make sense because it doesn't occur to us that the chances of any arbitrary path along the universe intersecting with a star would be effectively zero. We look up at the night sky and we can see so many of them, and they seem so close together, obviously you'd run into one no matter which way you went, sooner or later. Right?
It's more comforting to make up rationales as to why we might be alone than deal with the ramifications of being surrounded by life we may never see in a universe in which the entirety of physical reality amounts to a rounding error in a zero.
[0]https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hubble_Deep_Field
[1]https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2014/12/the-c...