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Is it really bad for mental well being? I know a lot of people nowadays (including me) have the desire to live separately from parents. But mental health has been going down, with increasing rates of reported loneliness and isolation.

Society has made us individualistic / "independent". But has it really made our mental health better?

Edit: and as others have pointed out, more people living separately is not ecologically efficient / sustainable.

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Need to redefine courtship culturally in the western world and we can make it work, that's the biggest friction with having young adults back home. It used to be, and in many cultures it is still true, that the parents were heavily involved in that process, but the western world moved away from that dynamic.

But in America, at least, a lot of people’s parents are fully gone down the road of selfishness and cruelty.

It would be nice if we had a culture that encouraged multigenerational support, but you can’t pull that out of thin air. It’s something that would’ve needed to be in place prior to the pandemic. I think millennials may come out changed from this, as, at least in my experience, we’re already more supportive of each other and collectively-oriented then our parents generation, but that would be a change felt far off in the future.

The suburbs are similar. Dealing with bad relationships by spreading farther apart is economically and ecologically terrible. We need to fix the people.

Exactly. It's society that puts a premium on success = more material goods and your own living.

The only time I think it's a real bummer is when you want to get laid. But even in other cultures you work that out.

But, really, being part of a community and sharing resources is supposed to be a good thing.

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