You should have edited this down. :-) Frankly, this seems even more condescending than what you started with and gives me a less charitable impression.

However, I get your main points, and feel the same frustrations at times with "social" apps, but it's never bothered me to such an extent. If someone was bothering me that much, I'd hide them or un-friend them -- they provide that service, you just have to have the guts to use it.