Have you asked on https://discourse.julialang.org/ already? Maybe, hopefully, you can find help there to feel less exhausted.

-- It's not an opinion when you e.g. say that precompilation has not been addressed when it is being worked on (with much cost, I'd suppose). Same for haven't focused on the UX [snip]. In case you aren't on the julialang discourse I really encourage you to register and ask.