> What they do mind is when they themselves are being spied upon
That's what SIGINT is.
> Like Merkel's phone being tapped.
Which is an example of SIGINT. And it was leaked which is why it became an issue. World leader's are always surveilled.
There's a certain level of aggression you use against acknowledged enemies that would be awkward if exposed against allies, that is not to say it doesn't still happen.