Since my original post is now flagged and hidden, what I said is no longer visible and I cannot let these misinterpretations stand unaddressed. I said that not everything that appears like racism or sexism might actually have a racist or sexist background, and might actually be more a random abuse by a dark personality type which hasn't learned to use their powers in more constructive ways yet. For example, abuse as narcissistic supply.

That's not an attempt to downplay or excuse anything but an attempt to understand the underlying causes of problems better since that is a prerequisite for addressing them effectively.

It's beyond me how the statement "most men are actually nice people" could be interpreted as sexist in any way.