You seem oblivious to the fact that you can still be effective but not a shitty security team.
Your way of approaching this literally makes people who should listen to you and trust you want to do the opposite. What an awful security team you’re part of.
It's funny you say that my way of working literally makes people want to do the opposite of trust me, when I send them a phishing e-mail that's exactly what I'm aiming for ;P
I've also worked at a place where the security team were trusted collaborators. Devs were comfortable communicating with them. Their security skills improved over time, and so did the security of the software they wrote.
The latter strategy is far more effective at moving the needle over the long term.
Treat. People. Decently.
I said shitty. No other swearing and no name calling. What exactly are you reading?