I’m extremely curious about
Rule number two, so I have to ask if you would be willing to get the feedback on why there important and share it with us? I feel like there is a genuine insight with this rule that isn’t obvious to me and likely others
Time delay is more fair and less anxiety inducing.
There is no possible window that's relatively short (hours) and will fit everyone who wants to participate. For any day and hour you pick, someone will be permanently excluded (because of e.g. their job, studies), and other people will miss it regularly due to irregular life events.
And ultimately, there's no point in doing that if the activity itself doesn't require for everyone to be doing something together. Such a posting isn't a team meeting; it can be done asynchronously.
But without the negative connotation, because the obligation to give the item away after waiting for an arbitrary period means that if you can't find anybody who wants it, at least somebody will get it who knows how to resell it better than you do, and will thereby deliver it to someone who will enjoy it.
edit: the "I Haul Junk For Free" person serves a function.
You see similar proposals for stock markets to process all orders that come in within one second in arbitrary order, to disincentivize the insanely expensive chase for nanoseconds in high speed trading.
It also allows you to select the most “deserving” though I’m more interested in how hard feelings are avoided.
It reminds me Charlie Sheen's quip about prostitutes: "I don’t pay them for sex. I pay them to leave." Likewise, one of the primary benefits of ordinary money/stuff transactions is that it's not all tangled up with obligation or any other social baggage.
- Sometimes multiple people are interested in a give.
- The giver needs to choose one somehow.
- Random selection is as common as anything else in my group.
- Some people like to give details, some people like to hear them, and some people like to use them to prioritize, because it fosters relationships with their close neighbors. It is by no means required.
If you ever decide that perhaps buying another new plastic thing from China via Amazon is not the best solution to a problem in your life, consider trying it.
To me, too. It reads like "In order to be considered for a gift, explain how you suck and can't provide, and how good you are at feeling generalized gratitude and appreciation. All of you will be judged, the least capable and most thankful will be chosen."
People comment about why they need it or will use it for in that time, then the poster can decide who to give it to after a fair amount of time.