Hopefully this isn't too much of derailing the conversation:

This was something that surprised me about China when I visited, although maybe it shouldn't have.

The level of community and how close people are seemed unreal, coming from the US.

Maybe part of it is the "forced" community - city/urban blocks gated off with single entrance/exit ways, in some cases. I'm not sure.

But the dancing every night in the street in big cities, the elderly gathering to play Mahjongg in dedicated buildings, and other things, really opened my eyes about how far apart we are.