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When I see stuff like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation.

I used to go to "bars" and the like, but it was only to meet women and get laid. Now that I've secured the means to reproduction I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you take the sex away. I'm so happy, happier than I've ever been, that I don't have to go to bars or drink alcohol ever again.

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“Secured the means to reproduction”, sure does sound like something an alien, trying to act human, would say about finding a partner.

A lot of people, especially in pub cultures like the UK socialise at their locals, they don’t just go there to aggressively pursue sex with strangers. It’s where they meet their friends after work, where they go to watch sport on the weekend etc.

I know. I live in the UK. I literally started my comment saying how different I am to other people and people keep replying about how not everyone is like me. Is reading comprehension really this bad or am I just rubbish at writing? I'm always happy to learn if it's the latter.

Well when you say this:

> Sites like this suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you take the sex away.

It implies that you don’t know what that “something” is. This is what the replies to your comment are addressing.

You're rubbish at writing.

Saying you don't "understand" something when it's clearly, obviously understandable with a shred of empathy - especially since you live in the UK and have likely met many people who go to the pub for reasons beyond "reproduction" sounds extremely condescending at best, and malicious at worst. If that wasn't your intention, then yes, I suggest you go back and try to improve your writing style.

Nah, I think the problem is I was talking about me but everyone else think I'm talking about them. I learnt a long time ago to accept that people are the they are. I don't try to analyse people. I just thought you empathetic people would find it interesting to hear how I feel. I guess I was wrong.

lol, the problem ain't me, it's everybody else. Well, good luck in life! :)

> suggest there is something attractive about such places even if you take the sex away.

Erm, you don't just like going to a pub or a bar with friends? Even if you don't, lots of people do. Perhaps what's different about you is that you assume your own tastes are universal... actually that's all too common with humans!

Culture is very different across the world.

Bars/Pubs are an integral part of both socializing and unwinding with your work colleagues and also a destination to meet up with your close friends. In many places, it's actually far more about socializing.

GTP-3?

Not the first time someone has suggested that. here, ill right like a moron so you know imz a realboi

These are great inside jokes, there was one thread where myself and another both accused each other of being GTP-3 (not realizing until later).

Especially in this age where all of our interactions are through text, and there lingers the possibility that everyone else does not exist, solipsism is becoming increasingly true.

When I see comments like this it reminds me just how different I am to many people. It feels like I'm an alien trying to understand a new civilisation.

I used to have "sex" and the like, but it was only to experience certain transmitters firing in my brain. Now that I've discovered my right hand I don't have to force myself through that hell any more. Comments like this suggest there is something attractive about such acts even if you take the pleasurable transmitters away. I'm so happy, happier than I've ever been, that I don't have to interact with another human ever again.

Good for you. Finding happiness that works for you and the rest of society is the most important thing there is. I tried a way of life similar to yours for many years, but I always found before long I would want sex with a real person. Also that person has to want to have sex with me. It can't be overtly a business transaction.

You are very, very lucky to have been able to find true happiness alone. You'll always have yourself and you won't be responsible for anyone else or have to worry about them. Some people might look down upon on you because you're not "doing your part" or something, but remember Stockholm syndrome is a real thing and you don't owe anyone anything.

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