At this point I just don't discuss my personal life with anyone I work with or if I do it's to respond with an, "I'm doing great, thanks, and how are you?" No after-work drinks or else I'll have one for the sake of appearing affable.

I'm a nice person but that any comment is potentially a landmine to me professionally, I'd just rather not expose myself like that. I can't count on anyone assuming good intent with me because everyone is so fired up on their crusader trains.

I'll give a personal example: when I was a Buddhist renunciate--this was right at the beginning of cancel culture--someone I thought to be a close friend posted a negative experience she had with a man. It didn't stop there: she proceeded to blast all men for not immediately talking to every man they knew about their inherent violence. I commented that from the perspective of peace, her exhortation would result in more anger, more rage in the world, not less.

My last name on Facebook at that time was my own creation, for the sake of my privacy. Immediately after my call for calm, I was doxxed and Facebook locked me out of my account until I could prove my last name.

In hindsight, she did me a great favor as I never returned to Facebook, which I now see as poison to the human mind.