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Just focus on solving problems for people and be a person that people like to be around.

Also learn to communicate properly, both in speech and writing. No one appreciates short common words substituted by numbers or single letters.

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To play like this doesn't work for everyone. In a toxic and manipulative environment there is only a very fine line separating your intention of being liked and helpful, and in actuallity being considered a weak person who gladly takes over work from peers. This quickly turns into an expectation which will cause your workload to pile up. In the end your emotional capacity will drain and you'll act more touchy which will turn you into this weirdo who can't say no but isn't liked either. Then you start to decline requests. Now groups of co-scheming colleagues will be after you - they'll start to complain about how you're refusing to work on requests and will use their well lubricated channels to higher ups to bad mouth you. Those types of people also find this to be fun - so they'll make sure there is going to be a tag on your forhead saying "douch bag" and bring you intentionally into weird situations with outsiders.

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