One of the problems I frequently see is that people complaining about ORM and SQL are thinking mostly of some object wrapping a row (or set of rows) in a table. Then they get into trouble when they want to wrap something more complex involving joins between tables.

All these problems would disappear if people used database views. Then their nice ORM layer (say ActiveRecord) would work perfectly and the nasty joining and updating would be taken care of by the database. I've often wondered if people even realize that database views exist and how powerful they are: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/View_(database)

Of course, it's only relatively recently that MySQL has started supporting views properly (in 5.0).

The other nice thing about views is that it means your code using the ORM is simplified because you aren't indirecting through different objects to get at specific values you need to display. It also means that only the necessary data is retrieved from the database.