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> Playing along felt like the price of inclusion.

Wait, what? The author played along for more than a year and then placed a complaint? Maybe it's the way the article is written but this seems pretty bad on the author's part.

The author seemed to be mainly worried about their ruining their 'upward trajectory' in the company.

Aaannnd the author is writing a book.

Yes, I am cynical.

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> Wait, what? The author played along for more than a year and then placed a complaint? Maybe it's the way the article is written but this seems pretty bad on the author's part.

“Playing along” simply means that she didn’t escalate the matter immediately to HR but ignored that (repeated) behavior in order to continue with her work. I don’t see anything wrong with her wanting to ignore this harassment in hopes that the harasser would stop, but deciding after a year that it was too much and never going to stop, at which point she decided to report it.

I've already closed the article tab, but she writes that the harasser was about to be promoted to management---specifically, her manager.

Because it is true. The fastest way to kill your career is to make complaint to HR. The second fastest way is to have a complaint made against you. Once you are a target of the system, there is a level of scrutiny you will be subject to that blocks you moving up and make sure your name is always on the potential layoff list. Not right away, and not in retaliation, but your days are numbered.

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