The case here: we have a buffer, and it grows as we stick bytes into it. A "vector" in many languages.
If you double the underlying memory each time you need more space, you'll end up copying some number of bytes that is linearly proportional to the final size. The final copy will be n bytes, the second to last n/2, … n/4, n/8, etc. The sum of those copies is 2n; that is, we'll copy about twice the final amount of data during all the resizes of the buffer. 2n is called "O(n)" in order notation, which describes how a function (in software engineering, usually time or memory use) grows in response to its input; it doesn't care for the leading constant factor of 2 ([1]).
If you instead grow the buffer by some constant amount — and it can be a single byte, or a page, it doesn't matter — you'll end up doing O(n²) copies. One way to see this is to list the copies out; also, let's say there's an imaginary copy at the front of 0 bytes (and is free), but it'll simplify the sum here; let's call the amount we grow the buffer by "k"; each time we copy, up to size n, will be:
0
k
2k
3k
...
n-3k
n-2k
n-k
n
To sum this sequence, We can pair each of those up: n + 0 is n; n-k + k is n. n-2k + 2k is n, and so on. You'll get n/2 copies of size n, so the total copied is about n²/2, or 0.5n². Again, the leading constant is unimportant, so it's O(n²).
This is a lot more work. Like, a lot a lot. Say you expand the buffer until you have 500 MiB of data. If you grow a constant 4KiB at a time, you end up doing:
In [6]: sum(range(0, 500 * 1024, 4096))
Out[6]: 31744000
~32 GiB of copying; if instead you grow by doubling, you'll copy ~1GiB, or 30× less.
The larger point is that O(n²) grows viciously fast compared to O(n). To quote Bruce Dawson, whose blog is filled with amazing feats of debugging slow programs,
> Roughly speaking it’s due to an observation which I’m going to call Dawson’s first law of computing: O(n^2) is the sweet spot of badly scaling algorithms: fast enough to make it into production, but slow enough to make things fall down once it gets there.
— https://randomascii.wordpress.com/2019/12/08/on2-again-now-i...
There's also this blog: https://accidentallyquadratic.tumblr.com/
There are worse things than O(n²), but they usually are so bad they're caught in testing. But O(n²) can work well enough in testing. There are things better than O(n²), but worse than O(n), like O(n lg n), but O(n lg n) is usually fast enough in a full, production data set. (Sorting, in the general case, is O(n lg n).) This is what Dawson means by "sweet spot".
The even more meta conversation is that in the HN discourse, there are often conversations that wonder what the value of a CS degree is. This is one of the times where there is value. And… it's not that uncommon. I use my degree fairly often, but I also had a fairly good school, IMO, that balanced the theory and the practical aspects. E.g., my database professor taught us Btrees, relational algebra, etc., but also had us work with a real database, learn SQL, and joked that a btree is O(1) (It's not, it's O(log(n), but in a modern database the base of that log is huge, and so it generally takes no more than a half dozen splits in the tree to find your item. (Above that, you're talking about databases with billions or trillions of rows.) In theory, the number of splits keeps growing, but in practice, finding a dataset that large becomes harder exponentially fast, and soon you run out of hard disks on earth, or something, that for practical purposes it suffices. (And/or, you'll know when it doesn't.)
[1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Big_O_notation#Family_of_Bachm... ; specifically, note the |f(n)| ≤ k·g(n); that leading "k" is an arbitrary (in the sense that we're saying there exists some k) constant, g(n) is the thing inside the O(…). So O(2n) and O(n) are the same, because that leading constant of k is going to "eat" the 2; the constant we find for one will just be twice what we'd find for the other, so we remove it from g(n) when we discuss these things. The shape of the curve — how it responds to input size changes — is the point.