> ridiculous position

I'm well aware of how other people perceive it. It's completely contrary to the barrage of what I call "cult of the victim" that spews forth from nearly all media.

I don't expect to change your mind. But give it a chance. For example,

A man falls down the stairs and breaks his leg.

Victim: "I'm so unlucky, my leg broke. Oh, life is so unfair."

Non-Victim: "Phew, I'm so lucky! I could have broken my neck! My broken leg will heal and I'll be fine. Next time I won't leave my toys laying on the steps."

Walter: "I put carpet on the stairs so I wouldn't slip on them. I go jogging to (in part) increase bone density so they are less likely to break."