Let me rationalize that for you. In order to keep yourself at a functioning level you have to see some good in yourself, to be able to respect yourself, and in that line of thinking - to trust that your physical base has enough value to be preserved long term in the genetic pool. You also have to see the same kind of value in the person you associated yourself with (i.e. your wife), and consequently - in the resulting lineage. Anything less is just prone to higher risk in the natural selection game.
"I don’t believe in utopias nor do I commit myself to what other people consider «worthy» goals, this is not a popularity contest for me, it’s about survival."
Not believing in utopia is one thing but, unless you're a nihilist or think we're at the end of times, you surely have to believe that the world can be made better and maybe do something about it. That's part of caring for the same descendants that will have to live in the world you'll leave them to. In consequence, the fact that you say you don't commit to other people's goals could mean that (A) it's because you don't share any views with other people out there on what would make the world better, which is very unlikely, or (B) you care and can afford to contribute but you just rely on the fact that others' effort will be enough and you can focus on more personal gains (which attracts contempt, and rightly so), or (C) you share the concerns and maybe even the goals for common problems but can not afford to do anything due to some limits in your life, like if you're in a war zone and can care only for physiological (Maslow scale) needs. It's hard to believe that you'd be in condition C, but then you actually say that it's about survival...
I’m not entirely sure about the three options you presented. I reject the premise that the world needs to be made better. It seems roughly good enough to me. I’m free to work on whatever I want. I’m free to have as many children as I want. I’m not sure how it could be made better outside of the government taking less of the fruits of my labor. If that makes me a nihilist, so be it, just leave me free to build my life how I want it. I can manage the rest, don’t need anyone to “fix” the “world” for me.
Pandemics will inevitably occur, however rarely, as long as humans exist. Similarly computers will be exploited, no matter how secure they are. That’s just the reality of complex systems. Natural market forces have already deployed people toward decreasing the probability of future pandemics, which were already rare. Seems good enough to me, if not ideal. What else can be done?
Again, this seems pretty self-centred. The world is good enough to for you. you have the freedom to work on whatever you want. Don't you care that most people don't have that freedom?
Everyone in my country has the same freedoms to work whatever job they want and to have as many kids as they want. The freedoms people have in other countries is out of my control. How is that self-centered?