I assume that they are using .Net, as SOEs bring down .Net processes. While that sounds like a strange implementation detail, the philosophy of the .Net team has always been "how do you reasonably recover from an stack overflow?" Even in C++ what happens if, for example, the allocator experiences a stack overflow while deallocating some RAII resource, or a finally block calls a function and allocates stack space, or... you get the idea.
The obvious thing to do here would be to limit recursion in the library (which amounts to safe recursion usage). BinaryPack does not have a recursion limit option, which makes it unsafe for any untrusted data (and that can include data that you produce, as Bunny experienced). Time to open a PR, I guess.
This applies to JSON, too. I would suggest that OP configure their serializer with a limit: