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At some point in my life I was into NLP (neuro-lingustic programming - just few bits of practical psychology.

What I've found - many dreamers do not need to achieve it - they already experienced what they are dreaming about and it is the same as to achieve it for them. It's like watch a trailer for a movie and then get bored in the movie theater..

There is opposite side - people who never dream and find any excuse to not think about possible future..

I believe, right way is in the middle - you have to dream, but only so much to start wanting to get there. And never try to experience the whole thing in a dream.

So we should teach kidos to dream, but only enough to ignite the spark, but not to burn it full.. Have no clue how to do this tho...

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Poster may be talking about something similar to this

http://www.ted.com/talks/derek_sivers_keep_your_goals_to_you...

"After hitting on a brilliant new life plan, our first instinct is to tell someone, but Derek Sivers says it's better to keep goals secret. He presents research stretching as far back as the 1920s to show why people who talk about their ambitions may be less likely to achieve them."

From my experience, telling everybody around may work both ways - it may put you in to frame where you HAVE to get to your target, or get enough discussion to experience it and forget about it. But in general, I would say yes - for me it is better to keep things in secret, try to build dependencies on these targets and slowly go through it.

I think there is something to it. In any case, kids (as well as adults) need to remember that dreaming is only part of the deal, that they still need to reach towards the goal, not just imagine it. Working towards a dream has to become a habit.

Nope, you've just been having the wrong dreams. Find the right ones and it won't matter how much you dream about it, when you get there it will be just as good.

I disagree. Dream and want it "so bad you can taste it". Then work hard to achieve it.

Brain do not have real distinction for dreams and real stuff. If you "live through" your dream - this is the same for your brain as to actually get all inputs from the outside world - that's what I am talking about.

What you are talking about - to dream enough to want it "so bad you can taste it", but not actually "taste" it. That's where you get hooked into going through A, B, C .... to get finally to Z.

I.e. there is fine balance. The question - how to find this balance and how to teach kidos to master it.

PS: IMHO =)

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