“Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life." —- Bryan Dyson, then the President and CEO of Coca-Cola Enterprises, delivering a commencement speech at Georgia Tech
A person that has truly amended his relationships seems to have stronger ones than one who always had ‘fine’ ones, in many cases.
Scrooge may not have become as beloved and loving a person without his repentance journey.
And in many cases, there is no amending anymore, cause other people got enough of it and trully moved on.And in even more cases, those seemingly strong relationships are actually noticeably damaged forever. They seem good because they are shelfes hanging together by sheer effort and often only out of inertia.
No matter how repetant you are, you cant unhurt other people. Repetance is about you, but they in the meantime made own decisions.
And if your plan from the start was to be repetant later to get back things you decided to sacrifice, it is smart from them to not accept it.
Relationships can survive a lot, but not every relationship can survive a lot, and sure there may be relationships that survive a lot of neglect but including those means you're falling for survivorship bias.
A child that hasn't seen her parent in the formative years of childhood because they were too busy at work isn't going to be able to relate to her parent the same as a child who was able to. I see that with some of my acquaintances and their relationship with their father.
Of course it is harder to get them back than the keep them constant, but the same applies to jobs as well, the longer you have been without a job the harder it is to get back, but it is still not that hard.
> when you spend all your free time working/studying, and constantly turn down invitations to go do stuff with friends, people stop inviting you to things.
If we consider a strict 40-hour maximum workweek on one end of the spectrum and what your friend is describing (100-120 hour workweek that leaves zero time for anything else), there's still a huge middle ground.
We don't have to choose between working so hard that our entire lives fall apart or not ever doing hard work at all. Many of us do work longer weeks when necessary, balanced with a healthy dose of social activity and things we enjoy. If someone is working so much that they lose all of their friends and even their social skills, something else is going on. Burning yourself out and withdrawing from society isn't what people mean when they say "hard work".
Like the author said, balance is important. Your friend's struggle wasn't necessarily with hard work, but with a complete lack of balance.
So it's strange to see it described as the low end of the scale. I'd pick 24 hours per week.
I've noticed that a 4 day work week has outsized mental health benefits compared to 5 days. Especially when your free day is at Wednesday. There's only so much "damage" a consecutive 2 days of work can do. That break on the Wednesday is truly a life saver. With that said, I'm noticing that if you want to upskill and immerse, then 5 days is better, but it comes at a cost, which is: not having a lot of time for much else since a lot of free time is actually spend on recuperation from the work day! That cost isn't there when you work 4 days since recuperation happens much faster.
Also, if you have remote possibilities at work, you can basically start doing what Tim Ferriss wrote in the 4 hour work week years ago. It's quite easy to travel and see the world in this mode. I guess even with kids? You have 3 whole days per person to figure stuff out. Well perhaps not anymore, but being able to determine your own work location is always beneficial (even if all you want to do is go to the office).
I think with a 3 day work week something even strangers happens. You're now capable of completely living a second live that can truly eclipse your work week (e.g. 4 day "work" weeks in your other life). I haven't experimented with this though.
A lot of fun can be had when you and your significant other both work 3/4 days per week :)
It won't make you rich, but the upside is that you get to enjoy life now and practice your mind every now and then at work ;-)
In that sense, I think Dutch people that truly fine tune this with regards to their needs, location expensens and so on can live a really rich life.
This can be so true. In the 24/7 operation it's important to recognize how this can occur and do whatever it takes to work around it.
OTOH making progress with unique electronics (which is not going to last forever anyway) can be done in an ordinary company if the ordinary company work can be accomplished in 35 hours instead of 40, and the resulting surplus 5 hours devoted to the unique electronics.
The equation says you have to actually work harder and more effectively for this to be true within the same 40 hours.
Resulting in the perfect example of positive returns.
Then if you put in 20 hours of overtime what have you got to show for it?
Well you could get five times as much accomplished per week on the unique electronics if you were so motivated.
The equation now says you have to actually work way harder and more effectively for this to be true and that 40 hours is out the window from the get go.
Only you can decide whether that kind of accelerated progress is more positive or not, and compared to what.
Probably your average job you could put in 80 hours and not even get nearly twice as much done as 40 hours, so why bother?
>Proper scaling means delegation and systems.
Ideally there would be backup gear and backup staff to insure 24 hour progress using only 40 hour weeks, but too many business operations are nonideal and build upon a relatively defective or incomplete foundation.
>Grinding away isn’t just unproductive, it’s a sign of a poorly run company.
I just can't let that bother me sometimes, most companies are not going to be that far above average if at all.
Usually little or no progress is on the agenda for being deployed.
If you're an innovator almost everything's always going to be underleveraged anyway since there's only so much resources to begin with.
Plus progress takes time & effort, how much progress would you like to make?
This is what really hurts me, when you put a lot of overtime into a project and you come across so many unforseen opportunities that you won't be able to investigate further.
If I had the necessary staff for what I'm already doing I wouldn't be working after hours so much my damn self.
Now I know I'm not alone in a random org having nominal amounts of technical debt before I got there, but if I don't work harder than average to function around it, it will end up bugging me an average amount and that's too much for me.
One of these days I'm definitely going to take your advice and quit.
If you're capable of 5x progress under such nonideal conditions imagine what you could do without such a dysfunctional org.
Grinding away may not be productive, and may be a sign of a poorly run company, but sometime a company has to do it anyway if it's the matter of survival. A dead company can't become a well run one.
> Grinding away may not be productive, and may be a sign of a poorly run company, but sometime a company has to do it anyway if it's the matter of survival. A dead company can't become a well run one.
I’d highly recommend quitting if you ever find yourself in a company like this.