Current market cap of ETH is ~$324B, thus getting 50.1% of ETH would require $162.3B in capital. However, as soon as you start acquiring ETH the price will increase, especially at those large volumes.
It would be insanely hard to come up with enough resources to buy enough ETH in a POS world to take over the network. Never mind the fact that as soon as it's become evident you've taken over the network the value of the network is essentially worthless and you've just destroyed billions of dollars worth of capital in the process.
It's kinda like taking over a condo building on a much larger scale: the people you buy out first can charge a premium; by the end, you set the terms.
The price goes up, you've just made it more expensive for yourself to take over the network.
If you were to attempt to take over you'd be better to do so in silence. However, it would be hard to hide that kind of control and wealth when every information on the network is publicly available.
If you're intentionally trying to take things down, sellers have a huge incentive to not be left in the 49% who hold something that's now lost its value - as you say, "as it's become evident you've taken over the network the value of the network is essentially worthless." I think you could get the value to go to worthless well before actually hitting 51% on intent alone, if you're a big enough power.
The Ethereum everyone talks about today is the fork, due to the Ethereum Foundation which owns the trademark leading the fork.
The Ethereum blockchain with the unaltered history is called Ethereum Classic
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethereum_Classic#The_DAO_bailo...
Ethereum devs were unable to create a legitimate transaction reverting the DAO funds because they do not have access to the hackers' private key. The reversion was done with a "surgical state change" hardcoded into the client itself.
Anyone can create new capital independently.
Nobody can create new tokens outside of the chain rules.
This means any newcomer can build up power in a PoW network, but "old money" is privileged in a PoS network.
Of course, this does omit some real-life considerations like people needing money for other reasons (to pay taxes, when they die, to buy a house, etc) but the basic principle stands: any initial whale in a PoS coin will basically never be dislodged if they play the optimal strategy.
If they can acquire a majority of only the active, staking ETH, then other big ETH holders can start chipping in stake to tip the scales back.
You've destroyed other people's "money" at the expense of your own.