The thing standing between procrastination and daily progress is ritual
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My 'secrets' are rather boring; schedule specific times, keep it achievable and don't overdo it in the early days. Little and often works wonders and you build the ritual / habit that way. You can then scale the frequency and length of time per session accordingly.
Strangely, having kids made me much better at this too. When I had loads of free time I wasted a lot more of it. Now my free time is very limited, it's much more precious.
I guess the point I was trying to make is when you set the specific schedule, convince yourself its not optional. I make the mistake all the time of saying things like "yea I'm going running at 7am tomorrow", but deep down I don't full commit to it.
WFH helps here as I can drop kids off and then run, shower and be at my desk for 0900. I'd run at lunchtime at work otherwise if it wasn't for WFH but this also makes it easier.
To add to it, the other thing besides being more explicit about the schedule for me was doing things in the morning before work. Even tough I was never a morning person, this helped me a lot with consistency since I can guarantee to get the time in every day while being more or less in the same physical/mental shape every time. Whereas end of day, I might feel too tired, finishing at different hours, have other things on mind, spontaneously getting asked to go for some social activity with friends, etc.
I thrive with routine and structure, but can’t find it at work, which makes things way harder than they need to be.
this has the massive knock on effect of people changing the meeting times sometimes up to the actual start of the meeting - extremely frustrating yes.
I know when my meetings start in the morning. If someone books a Monday morning meeting with me after I go home for the day Friday they will learn really quickly that I won't see their meeting invite until its too late. Same for any other days.
If people can't find an open time on Wed/Thurs, or they have to schedule on my blocked days in order to coordinate with others, then they reach out and ask when I'm available.
It's a great way to control your time.
Also, always ask "can this be an email?" and "what's the agenda & decision that needs to be made for the meeting?".
- pick the same time everyday.
- just start by playing for 5-10 minutes. Don't do any more.
- As the weeks progress and the habit is solid, add 5-7 more minutes.
So kid who plays 8min/day x 7 days/ week gets an hour each week, as opposed to the kid who does 25 minutes once or twice and gets bored. Then, when the kids habits are up to 25 minutes a day, they are getting 3 hours a week.
1) Abs are made in the kitchen. You need to spend a lot of time on the treadmill to burn off a single doughnut. If you skip the doughnut, you can skip the treadmill.
2) Each morning I do one set of pushups, curls, overhead press, lat pulls, and triceps. Probably takes less than three minutes. Back when I went to gyms, I would do 3-4 reps of 5-6 different lifts about twice a week. With travel time, rest between sets, and a shower that would take close to 2 hours per trip. So if you do the math, I am getting 7 reps of 5 exercises per week with a total time of about 20 minutes now vs 6-8 reps of 5-6 exercises per week for a total time of 4 hours. And if you do the math on total elevated heart rate time, the numbers are probably close enough, as there is usually a 10-20 minute recovery period after each workout. If we assume 15 mins, you get 7x15=105 minutes vs 2x(~40+15)=110 minutes. Basically in the ballpark even if the numbers are off a bit.
3) More importantly, I rarely skip the short workout whereas I would regularly skip the gym workouts. I definitely don't feel as good as I did after a gym workout. But I never feel as bad as I did after skipping the gym workouts for a few weeks in a row.
It is worth mentioning that I am not a disciplined eater. So I do go for a 3-4 mile run once a week, a short bike ride 1-2 times, and usually mix in another outdoor activity or two on the weekend. But just in terms of substituting gym time, I think the short daily workouts actually get you most of the way there. I am probably going to start mixing in an afternoon routine as well because it has been such a good development.
I have been applying the "maintenance" attitude to a lot of things as well as exercise too. My whole approach to household matters is informed by this now - I think about most my consumer purchases in terms of the "low intensity, high volume" use case, and measuring what improves my life by looking for benchmarks that would improve passively by having the item. Best ROI here is to spend on storage, organization, and ergonomics, because that lets you assemble a workspace for something much quicker. Assigning some things to a tray or bin can make all the difference. If it's shoved in a pile, the activation energy goes way up, rendering everything you already have relatively less useful. This is true even if you barely have any stuff to begin with!
Obviously the trick is making smart choices about that one meal, which isn't as difficult as I thought it might be.
If you’re starting from zero I wouldn’t suggest max sets, though. Start by trying to get the form correct. It can take some time to learn to recruit the right muscles. Watch a couple of YouTube videos and then film yourself to spot your deficiencies, correct, repeat. Still under 10 mins every other day.
Later on, - and this is the important part - when you have a number of different successful habits, you can give yourself permission to skip one of them once in a while without fear of starting a slippery slope. One of my things I was still doing > 85% of the time. It was very hard to give myself permission to not go sometimes, but because it wasn't my One Thing, it worked out fine. Right up until the pandemic hit and every day for the last month or two I can feel how the other things I do aren't making up the difference and I need to get back into it. Except now here comes Delta variant...
Psychiatrist Dr. David Burns writes at length about more techniques on addressing procrastination (called “do-nothingism”). He has a chapter on the subject in his book “Feeling Good,” and he wrote a similar passage online in an article for his podcast [1]. The methods he writes about that work best for me have been breaking down tasks into sequence of simple steps. This helps greatly for straightforward tasks, though it is less effective for difficult tasks that involve uncertainty and learning. These harder tasks require persistence and preferably time.
Separately, a personal technique I use is to really sell myself on the value of completing a task. The phrase, “discipline matters more than getting motivated” is thrown around a lot on the web, and though it has merit, I find motivation crucial to sustaining projects in the long-term (and also figuring out when it’s worthwhile to exit from a method or approach).
[0] https://guzey.com/co-working/
[1] https://feelinggood.com/2017/09/18/053-ask-david-i-dont-feel...
It gets harder and harder to procrastinate when the tasks are smaller and smaller.
A bit weird but seems like it'd be really effective for some people.
I acknowledge ritual and "doing things for others" is a component in my life: I joined a team sport years ago specifically to work out, because I would be obligated to do it vs. skipping it. I could drink alone or read alone, but I go to the bar to see people and be around people. I find it easiest to clean my home when I'm on a voice call with someone.
I haven't figured it all out.
The pomodoro process works for me and for a lot of people. Just set a timer for 25 or 30 minutes and make a rule you can't do anything else until the time is up. Just sit there and do nothing if your brain refuses to cooperate. Eventually boredom will do the trick.
Finally, creative work often involves lots of bits that aren't really creative. Source control, editing, issue trackers, etc. You can gain a lot by setting up a strict, thoughtless way of going through these motions. Makes it painless and not a hurdle, eventually, even if it still eats time.
Now that I don't have to think about lunch, I can spend that mental energy thinking about other things. With enough ritual and routine, I can even dedicate that mental energy while I do those things.
Ritual and routine don't stifle creativity, they give it the space to function.
Many writers talk about routine being critical to drive their production.
No amount of routine or pomodoro or any other system has overcome this, my brain simply feels wrung dry of any more creative ability.
It's like that other adage about artists and critics. I'm paraphrasing here: "Critics will get together and talk about meaning and form and style. Artists will get together and talk about where to get cheap turpentine."
It's almost you don't worry about the actual creative part of things. Just do things. Most of it will be bad. If you're counting on only creating good things or let creating bad things discourage you, you'll never actually create.
Maybe you do feel wrung out after a few hours, but maybe if you honestly kept at it for another hour, you'll get a second burst. Maybe not. Maybe it happens sometimes, maybe not others. The real point is that unless you try it every day, you'll never find out.
From his perspective, and I agree with it, the way to get creative in writing is to be consistently writing every day.
Maybe it _can_, but for many writers (for instance) routine seems to have been key.
How do you schedule for creativity? Curious to give it a try.
Then you're mom's asking you, "what's that clattering around?" while you're unloading the dishwasher while talking to her. :P
Or executive function issues.
[1]https://youtu.be/_tpB-B8BXk0?t=720 [2] https://www.understood.org/articles/en/difference-between-ex...
I myself have severe ADHD combined form or whatever it is called in English. Medication helps to level the playing field somewhat and I'm glad it exists and that I have access to it, but it is not a definite fix by any stretch.
Not. Even. Close.
I know it's nigh impossible what with the prescription racket and the quality of doctors out there, but the meds are out there and it's possible to create a regimen that would make your brain work like you want to.
It's been 7 years, and I eventually settled on one that worked the least worst, and just try to do the best I can. I am even considering quitting all together. I believe if the withdrawal effects were not so serve, I would have already.
In a lengthy conversation with the specialist after having tried and shot down every option under the sun, I was asked why I believed none of them worked and what I was then expecting. Turns out what I was experiencing was the norm; Current ADHD medication options are a lot like crutches or wheelchairs. Mitigations, nothing more.
I describe my experiences as not being life changing, but better than nothing.
To create a ritual/habit, you make first make the easiest component easy to do. Instead of writing for an hour, you just log in at 8am. Then you type a sentence and so on, and eventually you have a full blown habit.
[1]: https://tinyhabits.com/ [2]: https://jamesclear.com/atomic-habits
Worth taking the free 5 day program via email on the tiny habits website.
The insight there is that you need less motivation to act if the action is very easy so you make it as easy as necessary so that you don't need much motivation.
Imagine if I had put an "eat that frog" item there instead. That checklist would be ancient history.
This system has worked well for me. If I try and change this I fall into a sort of resentment that I have to do something when a calendar is telling me to.
The thing is though: if I were to write everyday for an hour, and produce 300-500 words, I'd output... 2,500 words per week. That's not bad. In fact it's good, actually.
So I don't know. I agree with the article, but I also find letting creatively and desire to a grip on me and then running with it has resulted in big output.
I think I see what you mean.
Ultimately when you're working for money you're solving problem's for other people. Those people, the ones paying you, are expecting delivery of the solution in a particular time frame. So that doesn't work with this kind mindset, sadly.
Same with a business you work for: they have expectations you have to meet versus, "You'll get X when I feel like producing it."
It's why I want to be a content creator: I have more freedom with my time.
It reminded me of the guy from Thailand (TED Talk - linked below) who didn't understand why we make our lives so complicated when he can work for 2-3 months of the year and spend the rest of it wondering which of his six houses, which he built, he's going to live in - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=21j_OCNLuYg&list=PLf_dOHZ768...
By way of analogy, imagine that you have a crippling fatigue due to low thyroid activity, and not knowing about the underlying issue you try to fix the fatigue by a rigorous exercise and rest regime. The progress will be painfully slow and often reversed. Alternatively you can get the thyroid pill and become a normally functioning human without the super-human effort.
I tried the thyroid theory for my fatigue actually and it didn't help. It was something else but still the same idea. It was a 'wetware' problem (really effed up gut microbiome that needed to be whacked and restarted with good bacteria and feeding them the right food).
You can see it in other posts from me. I think the histamine intolerance part was fixed by the Bacillus subtilis that's in what I take. Though some of the regular lacto bacillus strains certainly helped crowd out whatever was in me before. But some lactk Bacillus actually create histamine. For exame I could not drink Actimel.i can attest to the fact that it has live bacteria that make it to the gut alive because actimel gives me headaches (literal headaches not figure of speach)
I started with 1 a day and worked up to 3 a day over some weeks. I felt like crap for about 2 weeks. Like having a cold sick. Just no nose running and such. Then better than ever. Now I take one in the morning and one in the evening.
Oh and so I don't forget shortly after I also started keto. Real keto w/ less than 20g carbs. Did blood tests that confirmed I was in ketosis. That's the "and feeding them right" part. Did it for about a year which normalized all my off blood markers except for cholesterol which also improved but not below what is condered normal. Did it for a year. Now I no longer do keto but keep the sugar mostly away.
A daily stand-up is a ritual - doesn't necessarily contribute much, but serves to keep a group cohesive / give it a sense of belonging. Linting your code is a ritual -- could do without, but it keeps the more picky team members happy.
Doing something every day, that's more of a routine. It's effective, it advances the cause, and it creates a rhythm where that task becomes a part of you after a while, and the momentum is unbreakable.
I think the author is advocating for rituals as a way of more effectively building a routine.
The joy of completion, adulation from coworkers/customers, fear of being late to work, need for money to pay bills... some people it's a gun to the head.
Gather as many purpose providing elements to your life and you will never lack motivation or have procrastination again.
The reason you suffer may be to due to expectations or desire.
I feel like I'm not longer suffering since I let go and started to embrace that life is a journey. What matters is the present, but it is hard to recognize that when we can look forward.
But no, I wake up every day wishing I was dead, I don't accomplish anything I set out to do, I don't enjoy my job, don't enjoy my food, don't enjoy talking to people, don't enjoy the trees.
I'm not writing this for pity, I know no one gives a fuck.
But reading "oh well, you should have more purpose" drives me fucking insane. It's the same shit I have had people say to my face.
You know what I need? Medication. The right one, the stuff I had once. And now I don't. Because doctors are no better than robots and should've never gotten the responsibility of managing one's life.
Our brains are physical organs that break the same way a leg or the liver does. There is no reason to avoid treating brains like we do all the other organs. But no, "well, try to will it into existence" is the main MO of doctors with supposedly years of education and experience. Not to mention the commonly held belief.
Because most people have never gone through any serious mental illness and just can't imagine the hell.
What I found out from literally trying many suggestions from people on how to make my life better was that some of them worked.
You have to do something because as you have stated, no one is going to do it for you.
Take a leap of faith and ask everyone tou meet what they think you should do and actually fucking try it.
You are going to be amazed one day if you do.
Every day was the same without any enjoyment, and I considered just throwing myself in front of a bus. I tried some drugs from the doctor, and I lost control of my mind. It wasn't pleasant. The process for diagnosis was laughable. So, I tried weed for the first time.
Now, weed wasn't a magic fix, but I did a few bong hits and I didn't feel anything at first. Then, I went to drink some water and it was as if I saw the radiant beauty of glass and light interact for the first time. There I was standing in my kitchen staring at the bottle of a glass. I was in awe.
Now, I don't really need weed anymore, but I did develop a sense of awe of the wonder of reality. It's kind of amazing to think about things like why do we exist.
Purpose is how we distract ourselves or amuse ourselves, but curiosity is how we can find gratitude for the positive things in life. Here we are. We are a part of the universe that can observe the universe. What the fuck are we? What is consciousness? What does it mean to be alive?!?
I give a fuck, but I also don't know how to help. Most people barely know how to take care of themselves because we live in a chaotic world. We are frail beings living fragile lives in a psychotic world.
*I speak amazing-for-a-gringo Spanish largely because I married a Colombian. I'm CTO in two places at once because I coded a lot of projects and learned a lot of languages for fun. And I used to play piano or guitar on average 4 hours a day, which paid of by making me good at it but in no other material way -- almost no money in particular -- so take that as an argument in either direction.
The writer's zoom call mentioned in the article also has the benefit of social accountability and a dedicated time slot with a singular goal. Flow.club (launched yesterday on HN) has this aspect to it. For the past two days I've done three sessions on trail and each were productive. I plan to continue a few more sessions before my trail ends.
For example, already having the book you’ve been meaning to read placed on your empty desk helps you finally get started on reading that book.