NCMEC operates like a roach hotel: CSAM goes in, and it only goes out to law enforcement. I am 99% certain that Apple never received CSAM material from NCMEC for training. While Apple's people may have sat in NCMEC's building for meetings, I doubt they were ever shown any actual CSAM. I've been told that NCMEC used a tool by Apple to create hashes for NeuralHash. The hashes are based on some number of "the most common" CSAM content. (In the past, "the most common" was around 30,000 files.)
In effect, Apple may not know what is in their trained data set. However, researchers (not me) are already looking for ways to extract data from the libraries. I think it's only a matter of time before this becomes a much bigger problem.