IMO this argument isn't all or nothing. Sure, popular things are hated but Node is especially eggregious. There is more to it than "its just popular".

In my experience, the entire JS ecosystem does not respect robustness, stability, backwards compatibility, correctness, testability, and learning from other ecosystems. It continues to erode itself with emojis in the package manager, childish schzophrenia of frameworks, complete disregard for proven methodologies and extreme indifference to maintainability.

Java is used everywhere, I'd wager it is nowhere near hated as much as node or JS in general. PHP with all its flaws is also used on the web, much more than any other language except Javascript, it too gets less hate than JS/Node.