Comment by peterthehacker | Hacker News Reader

Comment by peterthehacker | Hacker News Reader

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> It's just my opinion, by I find things like this always reflect incredibly poorly on the author

Ironic considering the comments that follow. Like

> basically just comes off as a bitch session

I do think your points could have merit but you’re articulating them in a rude way that detracts from your argument.

Yes, the love bombing approach to corporate culture in trendy tech startups is a nasty manipulation technique we should all watch out for, but we should also have some respect and compassion for employees that buy into it and get their hearts broken. Should they have known better? Yes. Is this not that bad in the grand scheme of things? Probably. But comments like this don’t help.

Just a bit of (unsolicited) advice: articulate criticism respectfully with empathy for the criticized. It will make your arguments much more effective.

Maybe it is better to elaborate the point really being made, the thing that motivates that people need to tone these things down. People need to be mature enough to accept and be prepared for the fact that the employer that provides them an income can go under and leadership has failed to articulate issues in the company in a timely manner.

The "love bombing" doesn't help, but, of course, they are hiring and retention techniques. I think it is similar to an ideological propaganda that has led to wars. Whether you accept the 'mission' or not, you're out of control in the end unless you are the leadership. When this stuff does come up, at best, all I can do is ignore it, particularly aware of the fact that I worked at a company for a long time, like my current employment and surviving a layoff, company restructures, etc.

Maturing from "my co-workers are my family and we are doing great things" to just seeing it as a job is probably the best thing to do. I hope that instead of raging against this CEO, upset employees instead receive both gainful employment again and a sense that a company is just a company.

In retrospect, I agree, your approach would have been better.

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