Stop Looking for Mentors

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Great advice.

I've been a mentor, it's harder than it looks. Finding people willing to invest in giving serious answers isn't easy, and there is a price to be met: say thank you.

It’s interesting - I shared this article with someone I know who has mentored people and they had the same feedback re: saying thank you. I guess it’s pretty common for people to ask lots of questions and get lots of advice and not say thank you?

Maybe we're over-stating a rare problem. It does stick in the mind. Really the point is, its freely given and its value is beyond price, in the sense it doesn't demand monetary reward, but recognition.

I would add that as a Mentor I found some of the questions really quite confrontingly hard. "what should I do with my life" is really hard. "my wife is worried I have a persisting health problem" likewise. You have to know when to say "seek competent input from a trained physician"

Oftentimes, what people really needed was an active listener. But I do like a good homily. We're all playing roles here.

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