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Why are you so concerned with who your kids are talking to? You have to teach them trust else they’ll continue on passing on this mistrust you clearly take as normal. How did the kids exist prior to Facebook messenger?

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Don't know if you have any children. I will quote a line from chef in South Park: there's a time and a place for everything. It's ok to have a line drawn somewhere and have a hybrid approach, relax the rules gradually. And I'd rather like to be so when I was a kid.

So then how do you shelter them from the world? It has no parental controls. Is the hope this time doesn’t come until their of proper age? Life has its ways

Do it gradually just like how you learn materials in schools? All I am saying is that it's not black and white. Make different choices at different age groups.

Young teenagers should be learning how to moderate who to trust and who not to trust. Seven year olds should not have that responsibility.

You as well, how do you protect them from the real world threats?

Interestingly I’m married to the product of this sheltering. When anything bad happens at all, she panics. Like panic attack panics. Things happen when they happen, and you’re attempting to control that instead of teaching.

There will never be a proper age to ween them into the real world.

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