No, this is false.
The stiffness issue is a second order issue (which is why larger conventional planes actually have LOWER dry mass per passenger than 9 seat passenger aircraft) and IT AFFECTS ALL PLANE TYPES, and can be addressed via truss braced wings as I said. There are more important minimum gauge type issues at small scale that tend to dominate and make small scale worse performance than large scale.
The claim that larger size in particular is a problem is false. Efficiency, including structural efficiency, actually tends to improve with scale beyond 100 seats.
> We sadly cannot make large battery powered airplanes with a usable range and speed unless we get up the gravimetric density.
This, again, is often repeated but false from a technical standpoint. 9 seater and 100 seater, for the same range, scale just fine between them and with clean sheet design we can use existing 200-400Wh/kg gravimetric density. Scale. Isn’t. The. Problem.
Large planes tend to be used on longer routes, in fact. Smaller planes are needed for their granularity on short routes.
The reason we see 9 passenger electric planes first is pretty obvious: cheaper and faster to develop small planes than large. Big aircraft manufacturers are much more risk averse as well. A large new clean sheet aircraft can take literally decades to develop. Not true for small aircraft. And again, generally the granularity of small planes means they’re more useful than large planes for shorter routes. This all reinforces the false notion that there is some technical reason why we “CAN’T” make large electric planes when there really, truly isn’t.
For instance, consider the Learjet 70/75. 8 passenger, dry mass of 6 some tonnes. Over 700kg per passenger. 14 passenger Falcon jets do better at about 500kg per passenger. 737 Max8 with 210 passengers gets about 215kg/passenger. So if anything, overall structural efficiency improves with scale! At least up to ~200 passengers. (Caveat is that these are typically private jets with a different seating arrangement... but so are the example electric aircraft. So they'd similarly benefit from scale up to larger seat capacity.)