4 years ago last month, for me. In some ways it gets better - you don't have to answer to anybody but yourself, again. In others, it doesn't - society now sees you a bit differently, and will continue to do so until you somehow get back "on the rails" with a new partner.

> I can totally understand how some men are obliterated when children are involved and the other spouse is out for blood

Happened to a friend of mine and I thank my lucky star every day that we kept things civil. Men in particular have a lot to lose.