Do you think it's possible that what you call optimum are exactly the state of things in your late twenties / early thirties? And anything more you just call "too much"?
Hypothesis 1: The 90s-00s really were the peak and it's not just a generational effect
Hypothesis 2: The nostalgia I currently feel is bad enough but oh god it's just going to get worse isn't it?
What we do with that tech is another story. Tech is weaponised against us in every way, but that's not the tech's fault.
Yes, it is. Because the tech was specifically designed for it.