She has been and still is going through some tremendously stressful situations however and I’m trying to balance that against the fact that more stress is on the way. I completely agree with you but it’s tough.
Jordan Peterson talks about this a lot, especially in "12 Rules For Life" and in his lectures about his daughter's medical condition. I couldn't find the relevant quote but he touches on it in this lecture segment [1]
Can happen to anyone, of course, and it's not necessarily a reflection on character in its own right, but it is worth taking some thought on the value of advice on how to keep your life together when it comes from someone who's demonstrated such an inability to keep his own life together.
Even on the simplest things - his constant line is "clean your room", and every time you see him on a Zoom interview from home it's wall-to-wall clutter in the background. Granted, "clean your room" is pretty uncontroversial, and is good advice - as is that you should pet a cat when you find the chance. But, in this as in everything else, epistemology matters: you do want to consider the source.