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Tinder Platinum.

Cheaper than bars and clubs, way better results.

For what? Bars and clubs are well known, for generations, to be bad places to meet nice people. The best way to make long term relationships is by doing things you enjoy (group events like sports or maybe hobbies) and having friendships grow into more. Not trying to be a dad here, but random fucking eventually gets old.

I do not enjoy group events. I enjoy solitary hobbies in the comfort of my own home. So what is my solution dad

I also do not have time to fake enjoy a group hobby or event for years in hopes that a hot single woman will eventually join and become friends with me and blossom into a relationship.

I get you, I’m the same, I guess my advice sucks, honestly. Of course, just looking for hot singles is part of the problem. As an old man I can tell you looks don’t last but personality tends to.

Personality definitely fades. People change, become less fun, grow into different people.

Everything fades, so just get the best you can now and hope for the best.

Tinder Platinum sounding like a better value proposition now?

Not really, I’m married so I don’t need those, but everyone I know has had poor luck with them and I never had good luck with the previous generation of dating sites. The two rules of dating sites basically preclude my ugly ass from getting decent results anyways. Don’t listen to my bored crappy advice, clearly you know what works for yourself.

I’m curious, if you had to start dating again what would be your strategy?

I probably will soon the way this year is looking. I have no idea honestly, but apps are at the bottom of the it’ list for me, personally. Maybe I would join a volunteer organization or go to a match maker and pay actual money to them. Maybe go to places where I can do hobbies I enjoy and just talk to anyone. Ask other friends I know if they know anyone, things like that.

It's a bit narrow to lump all Tinder meets into the "random fucking" box.

I'm in an exclusive relationship now, but I'd used Tinder for years prior when I wasn't interested in a committed relationship and made many genuine connections as friends with benefits (and I'm still just friends with many of them today).

People seek different things at different times. I agree that hookups can be a bit shallow, but those aren't the only answer for physical connection if you're not in a relationship.

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