I don't have very healthy relationship with online communications, and especially social media. Generally I find any disruption from deep thought, especially notifications from my phone, chat, and email, to be very aggravating or even stressful. If I'm really into my work, I will audibly grumble or say "what!" loudly (I work at home by myself so this doesn't bother anyone else). I have to carefully curate all notifications (and in the case of email, be diligent about unsubscribing from newsletters/marketing material I didn't sign up for) to minimize disruption for my own sanity.

Even when I'm not working, a generic notification from my phone is stressful because the thought that it could be something that I have to deal with right now doesn't go away until I check it. Because of this, I have to blacklist any application that will happily send me useless notifications, which includes basically all social media apps, which means I don't know when someone is genuinely trying to engage with me on social media unless I visit all the time. As a result, I basically don't use social media. It's unfortunate to miss things that people only plan via indirect communication because of that, but it is what it is. I definitely feel like the ubiquity of planning and communication via e.g. Facebook means that I miss out on a lot of social events and interaction, so I must ironically conclude that I am alienated from most of my peers as a result of social media.