You don't... for the next 15 or so years they manage you, if you can keep a lid on it.
I read a quote here a few months ago: you can do a good job on two of kids, relationship, job.
I read a quote here a few months ago: you can do a good job on two of kids, relationship, job.
You need to loosen your expectations towards yourself a bit and choose your battles. See the parallel article here [0]. Don't grief if you can't get the balance right all the time, just keep trying.
The most important aspect I found is to keep connected and giving to your spouse. The two of you have chosen that live and are in it together. Keep giving and you will get back, there can be a lot of strength in a relationship.