You're not necessarily wrong but it just doesn't feel like the right context to share this perspective, given the subject matter of the OP.
This comes off as extremely insensitive and tone deaf to me.
This comes off as extremely insensitive and tone deaf to me.
Don't assume that I'm automatically insensitive because I am a male. I was the person who submitted this article!
I wasn't planning to say anything about my own situation when I posted it, I felt embarrassed to do so, but also compelled when I saw other people with a viewpoint like yours write vicious insensitive comments that I felt compelled to speak up about. (I wound up posting to the main thread because the comment was deleted)
There is nothing hypothetical about this scenario, it is one that I am living. I have stuck with my wife through thick and thin and I am completely dedicated and want to grow old with her. There are members of my extended family (who I love and am proud to know and would hate to be separated as much as I would from my wife) who had the same experience and suffered dramatically.
Men are continuously told that we need to open up emotionally (my mother-in-law felt that way about her otherwise upstanding husband) but we're always wary that it is another cruel trap where we get punished for showing emotions.