> I am talking about experiences, relationships, and outlook-defining memories.

And "pumping out kids" as you put it does this for many people. Sorry it doesn't for you, but saying that it isn't a "win" for some people is short sighted.

> You can do more. You can be more. You can experience more.

Many would say the same of those in their 30s and 40s with kids.

> Sad.

Again, many would say the same about your aspirations. Insulting, isn't it?

My point being, what makes you happy, doesn't make others, so don't cast someone who has kids at 21 with a home and ability to provide for them into a bucket of not "winning" at life.