That all makes a lot of sense. And I think you've helped something 'click' for me (and hopefully others) in understanding some things here, thank you for your time writing all of this up! It's really appreciated.

A quick final questions on pronouns, if you have time: I'm contemplating the idea of just using they/them pronouns for everyone. I quite like the idea currently for a few reasons, and I can't imagine people being offended by it(?). But one negative I could see is that, when someone asks for others to use particular pronouns for them (e.g. she/her), using those pronouns I can imagine would be a nice acknowledgement/validation/show of support etc., which using they/them instead probably wouldn't give. Did you have any opinion on people making such a choice, given any insight you might have from your own experiences or an understanding of the LPGTQ+/etc. community? I'd definitely like to be able to reasonably justify it as a rule (even if someone's specified certain pronouns).