I'm a hacker, always have been. Took a detour to be a PhD scientist, and another one to be a "software engineer", but I'm a hacker. And this hacker can tell you: most (95%) of software "engineering" is not engineering, but more or less the equivalent of telling anecdotes about your grandparents experiences while arguing you have a solution to covid.
That said, there's 5% of software engineering out there that is engineering; read the RISKS mailing list archives if you want to see some examples (and counterexamples).
If software engineers were engineers, testing would be a higher priority, and visible regressions would happen rarely, if at all.