I'm sorry for the difficulty you and your coworkers are facing, it can't be fun. I worked for six years in direct patient care and I know what it's like when my ward is filled an how exhausting it is.
Sometimes we lose a bit of the big picture in that situation though. It helps to take a look at the actual numbers.
In Pierce County, WA the hospitals have only recently exceeded bed capacity warranting transfers [1], in the past week there was an 8% excess capacity, the total bed capacity of Pierce County is ~460, and last week there were 125 covid admissions. The ICU is not at capacity, it's at 92%, which is typically where ICU utilization sits, if a hospital is profitable.
Pierce County has a new infection rate of about 3.5k per 100,000 [2]. The population of Pierce County is almost 1 million, which gives about 35,000 total case infections for 14 days. Of roughly 35,000 infections, there were 125 admissions over the past week. For excess capacity transfer patients, the number is somewhere around 35 to 40 people.
That's certainly enough to feel a strain with when you're working there day to day, but from the average Pierce County resident who's chance of admission in a given week (not age or health adjusted) of 0.000125, I think it's understandable why they may not feel like participating in all of the restrictive measures.
https://datacentral.kitsapsun.com/covid-19-hospital-capacity...
https://www.tpchd.org/healthy-people/diseases/covid-19/pierc...