Apple just needs to add shared AirTags to iClould family sharing. I think that’d solve your issue and ~90% of other unwanted stalking alerts. They already allow shared “Find My iDevice” and just need to add AirTags to the mix.
I think there will always be headlines about stalking and abuse, and people claiming Apple didn't do enough (even though it's so annoying as is), regardless.
I can see that concern, but family sharing ALREADY lets you share iDevice locations at all time. That's a superior form of stalking compared to AirTags... So I just don't get this concern. It might just be perception though. From a PR perspective this is a bad time to release any feature that could be perceived as reducing AirTag stalking alerts.