live offline. as long as you’re not completely socially incompetent you can be largely yourself in most situations, find people you jive with, and then be completely yourself with them. unless your threat level is “my phone’s recording everything in the room 24/7 and sending that to authorities”, you’re free to do all the illegal drugs you want with your friends, use the N-word, do all the other things which you thing you should be able to freely do but for some reason aren’t able to do comfortably in public.

if you must do things online that are best kept detached from your IRL/govt identity, setup a box running something like Tails that doesn’t accept any non-Tor traffic, and interact with it through a text-only interface (i.e. a shell, or links-like keyboard-driven web browser).

people sometimes discourage using obscure setups because they allow better fingerprinting but that’s not always as bad as it’s made out to be. primarily you want to break the link between your pseudonymous identity and your IRL identity. it doesn’t matter how fingerprintable your pseudonym is so long as the overlap between it and your IRL identity is small. and that’s the reason to prefer simpler interfaces like text-only: they prevent leaking things like cursor movements which might otherwise build a tie between those identities.