Yes I realize this. I realize it is a bit like programming. You do not try to figure out how everything is going to work from the get go. You just start hacking at it, until you get results. The issue I am now running into is, I'm really lacking in opportunities to even meet women. Engineering background and so on, just lots of men. The only place I found where I could meet women in a relaxed setting is at sport clubs, but even there, the opportunities are a bit limited.