At some point you have to take personal responsibility for the leaders you elect or your failure to keep a poor leader from office. If you didn't vote for them due to apathy or whatever, it's not an excuse. Apathy can have its own form of malignant harm. If your leader is causing global malignancy and harming innocents, only so much sympathy can be invested in the general population from others. Also from what I've gathered from other Russians, not just ones friendly to westerners which are more prone to be against the war, it seems just as many Russians are for the war as against it.